After hearing Diane Keaton sing “Make new friends, but keep the old …” it made me think about where my friendships have gone the last couple of years. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had surgery and later when I was going through chemotherapy, I had to learn to sit and allow other people to help me. It was humbling to have friends rally around when I needed them most. When my daughter graduated from high school and went off to college, I realized (as do many parents) that I suddenly had no life. Or friends. Or any of my own activities. (Those of you with young children can laugh now, but just wait!). I realized that my activities and friendships revolved around my daughter’s activities and school. The realization hit me a few weeks after she moved into the dorm – I needed to make new friends, and renew my old friendships.
Friends=Community and Accountability
The last few years have been about proving that I can do it – even if I didn’t really enjoy it (hello swimming!). And I proved to myself that I can do it. My focus this year isn’t just about seeing how many miles I can log. It is more about finding people who enjoy being active. This helps hold me accountable to getting out and moving – given a choice, I would much rather sit on my couch and watch Downton Abbey. But being of a certain age, spread happens. And I not only want to be healthy and active as I go forward, but also manage that dreaded spread. My challenge this year is to find things that help me build a community and keep me engaged in an active lifestyle. It really is all about finding things that you love and doing them … and not being afraid to try something new (with your new community) because you just might find something new you love.
I’ve been instagramming my journey the past few years. It’s a fun way to be accountable, document the fun I’m having, and see the milestones I hit along the way. My goals are small: do an event a month, run my first 5k, find new friends and activities, and encourage others to begin their own journeys.